ménage à trois?

Ménage à trois is no longer what it was. It has been taken over as a term for a sexual encounter involving three people. Some people fantasise about a ménage à trois, thinking how exciting it would be and how taboo and how thrilling while it’s happening. Some people, not all people. Some people would find the idea of sharing their partner, even just for the length of time that a sexual encounter lasts, disturbing to say the least.  But, going back to what it was, ménage à trois actually translates to “household of three” and is a domestic relationship that doesn’t always encompass a sexual relationship.

While I’m happy for the polyamorous* relationship in the Ruthless Beings series to be considered a household of three, I don’t want it to be considered a ménage à trois because most people immediately think of sex between three people at the same time when they hear that expression.  This relationship isn’t about sex, it’s about something else. And it’s something that readers of the series, people who would probably never think they could be “okay” with something like this, understand. How?

Because the whole point of the Ruthless Beings series is normalising things that people stereotype. It’s making complicated things simple, and simple things complicated, and making you second guess yourself when it comes to motivation. Good people do bad things. People who piss you off can become people you adore. People you adore can become people you want to smack in the face.  People who you didn’t think you could forgive can be forgiven. And some people are just rotten to the core.

I hope you get to know the Ruthless Beings. And I’ll assure you now that this household of three has been built to last. I believe in love.

(*see my blog post ‘Being Polyamorous’ for more information)

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