Friends of gender?

“Men and women can’t be friends.” I disagree. A lot of people agree, but I disagree. Frequently people are willing to agree that their spouse is their best friend.  For some people this is just something to say, but for others it’s true. But what about being friends with a member of the opposite sex who isn’t your partner? Okay, insert panic buttons here – sexual tension, jealous partners, friends with benefits, rumours, leading somewhere, one of them must be homosexual, etc.

“Men and women can’t be friends.”

Relax. Inhale. Exhale. Okay, better? Men and women can be friends.  It is possible. It takes a certain kind of man and a certain kind of woman, but it is possible.  In the Ruthless Beings series, it definitely happens. Okay, so I write fiction, but it is possible. I believe it. I personally have always had more male friends than female friends, and I am my husband’s best friend.

So what kind of male and what kind of female does it take?  The quickest answer would be  – ones that don’t want anything from each other.  A relationship where this is no power play and often where the relationship is built on mutual interests and associations. You’ll see them in the Ruthless Beings series and you’ll wonder, but no, she believes men and women can be friends, and so do I.  Sometimes men and women can’t be friends purely because no one will believe that there isn’t something else going on between them.

I’m here to encourage open minds.  Next time someone tells you that they’re “just friends”, try to be a little less suspicious.


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